It is so important for husbands and wives to encourage each other and to build each other up.
Men, because you’ve been involved with pornography, believe me, your wife will be feeling unloved, betrayed and very hurt. You need to earn her trust back again, prove to her it is all in the past, ask her forgiveness, tell her you love her, that she is the most precious, beautiful woman on earth. You need to not just tell her once, but daily, start off each day saying “I love you”, help her get back her confidence. It really hurts to discover your husband has been lusting after other women, even if it’s “just an image”, it’s hard to take in why he would rather watch porn than go to her. She will be asking herself many questions, wondering was she not good enough, too ugly, too fat, too thin or just plain boring. Help her feel beautiful once more.
And ladies, if your husband is truly repentant, and has set his mind to give up pornography, you need to let him know how proud you are of him. He needs your help and support more than ever. I know you are hurting and I know that what has happened was very unfair, but in order to move on, you need to let it all go and start afresh. God says to forget the past and allow Him to do a new thing. So speak words of affirmation to your husband. It is important for him to know you’ve forgiven him, that you love and cherish him.
I found this picture and although it’s meant to be humorous, I felt a pang of sadness, because with some couples it can be a reality, so don’t allow time to drift past until you find yourself like this old couple!
Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11