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February 10, 2016 By Janice

 

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Pornography is not some titillating feast for the eyes that gives a momentary rush of excitement.

Rather it has the effect of damaging hearts and souls to their very depths, strangling the life out of relationships that should be sacred and hurting to the very core those you should love the most.

 

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Filed Under: Beauty For Ashes, Generation XXX, Get The Facts, Men, Prayer, Repentance, Uncategorized

September 9, 2015 By Janice

Count the Cost!

The Ashley Madison hack has spurred a lot of talk about adultery. An untold number of its clients have already resigned jobs or been served divorce papers. A few have even committed suicide.

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We can justify anything if we try hard enough, right? But the only way to justify adultery is closing our eyes to the terrible costs it exacts in our lives and the lives of those closest to us.

We can all do the math for ourselves, but by my counting there are at least eight major reasons to run, not walk, from infidelity.

  1. It’ll cost your reputation. People in our culture disagree about morality, but there’s remarkableagreement about one sin: infidelity. It’s wrong and everyone knows it.No one’s handing out scarlet A’s today, but people will find out, and they will not forget—even if some are gracious enough to forgive.
  2. It might cost your job. Most affairs start at work, and many affairs end careers. If you’re in ministry, this is a given. You’re canned. You might get reinstated or hired at another church, but don’t count on it.Depending on company policy, you could get the axe in all sorts of other job environments, too—especially if you’re having an affair with a subordinate. You might as well update your resumé right now. Even Ashley Madison’s CEO is on the street after the hack and news of his own affairs.
  3. It’ll cost you money. The bad thing about losing your job is that affairs are expensive. Secrecy and coverups come at a price. But it won’t end there.Divorce lawyers aren’t cheap, plus roughly half your assets. And don’t forget alimony and child support.
  4. It’ll probably cost your family. Two thirds of marriages are toast after an affair, and most of those that survive take years of repentance, forgiveness, counseling, and healing to find any sort of restoration. Betrayal is a hard thing to overcome.The same goes for kids. If you have children, they’ll be confused and hurt by your betrayal. Kids suffer special difficulty in cases of infidelity because they’re usually stuck in the middle, holding a burden no one should have to carry.
  5. It’ll cost you friendships. Betrayal hurts all relationships, not just families. Don’t be surprised if close friends pull away when news of your adultery gets out—which it will.Some will take the side of your spouse. Some will feel so angry and frustrated they can’t stand to be around you. Others will find your new reality just plain awkward—especially if you insist your friends accept any relationships that comes out of your affair. Some will stay, many will not.
  6. It’ll cost you your emotional health. People start affairs because they get an emotional charge out of a new relationship. It doesn’t last, and the fallout is almost always emotionally damaging. The average affair lasts about six months, but the negative effects can last a lot longer.The strain of keeping secrets and maybe losing an entire life can be unbearable. “The person confessing to an infidelity experiences the full gamut,” says Pam Gerhardt: “guilt, self-loathing. . . . Leading a double life can become increasingly difficult for people engaged in affairs.”
  7. It’ll cost your legacy. If the average affair lasts just six months, are you willing to trade that for the kind of things you grandchildren will say about you?How will you be remembered when you’re gone, someone who loved and cherished his family—or a disappointment? Do you want to be remembered as a person who loved his wife and was faithful to his family—or as the one who squandered his legacy in a moment of indiscretion? Now’s the time to answer those questions.
  8. It might even cost your soul. I don’t need to go too far into this. If you’re a Christian, you know adultery represents a serious spiritual peril. Betrayal is the original sin, and it wreaks havoc in our hearts.

Adultery is not normal and it certainly isn’t inevitable. God made us for fidelity. But we live in a fallen world, and we can’t afford to be niaive. Nothing will destroy our life and legacy faster than an affair. We must count the cost.

The only way to justify adultery is closing our eyes to the terrible costs it exacts.MICHAEL HYATT

Filed Under: Beauty For Ashes, Generation XXX, Get The Facts, Men, Prayer, Repentance, Uncategorized

May 17, 2015 By Janice

How your wife feels …

Before you decide to do pornography again, just think about the effects it will have on your wife. She will suffer the consequences by feeling:

P – Psychologically abused        D – Dirty and defiled        M – Manipulated

O – Ostracized                           E – Embarrassed             A – Angry

R – Reduced to fragments         S – Seedy                         R – Really heartbroken

N – No self worth                        T – Trust gone                 R – Ruined

O – Obsolete                              R – Repulsed                    I – Intimacy destroyed

G – Grieved                                O – Offended                   A– A heavy spirit

R – Rejected                               Y – You don’t love her     G – Gutted

A – At the end of her tether        S – Sexually abused        E – Exhausted emotionally

P – Polluted

H – Hurt

Y – You have betrayed her

 

Filed Under: Beauty For Ashes, Generation XXX, Get The Facts, Men, Prayer, Repentance, Uncategorized, Women Tagged With: dirty and defiled, how your wife feels, pornography, suffer the consequences, you have betrayed her

January 6, 2014 By girvan

Prayer life or Hard life?

” No man is greater than his prayer life” that was the cry of a godly man named Leonard Ravenhill.  And he was correct, your prayer life is the true reflection of where you stand with God and where the source of your power comes from to fight the enemy.

There are billions of prayers being offered up before the throne every day, but the ones that move the heart of God into action are desperate prayers. God cannot turn His ear away from a soul that is utterly depended upon his refuge, God cannot not hand over a soul to the enemy when it takes sanctuary in His Almighty name.

Lord, I am haunted with such a temptation, dogged with such a lust, either thou must pardon it or I am damned; mortify it or I shall be a slave to it. Take me in the bosom of thy Love for Christ’s sake. Castle me in the arms of thy everlasting strength, it is in thy power to save me from, or give me up into the hands of my enemy. I have no confidence in myself or any other; into thy hands I commit my life and rely on thee.

One faithful prayer of repentance can act like the rudder on a mighty ship, changing the direction of its course for the better.This prayer was written by William Gurnall author of The Christian in Complete Armour. There is still the same strength and power in this prayer today as when it was first prayed in desperation back in 1644.

Gen3x   changing your hard life to a prayer life.

Filed Under: Men, Prayer, Uncategorized Tagged With: desperate prayers, hard life, Leonard ravenhill, move the heart of God, prayer life, The Christian in Complete Armour, William Gurnall

May 8, 2013 By girvan

Confession Time boys prayer

 

Lord, You have brought me to this place and there is nothing that I can hide from you any more. Prepare me Lord for this confession to my spouse. I seek Your guidance, Your presence, Your face, Your strength and Your grace to get the both of us through this situation. Lord smooth this confession and allow me to rest in the knowledge that You are in control. I pray for Your comfort over (enter wife’s name) and able her to receive Your grace throughout this testing time. I am ready to acknowledge my involvement in (confess sin) and  allow (wife’s name) to accept my plea for forgiveness. No matter what we both face You are in the process and I will trust You with it. Lord I offer this confession to glorify You, and to disarm   the enemy.In Jesus’ name I pray Amen.

Gen3x – Fighting Pornography Together

“Hear, O Israel, Ye Approach This Day Unto Battle Against Your Enemies: Let Not Your Hearts Faint, Fear Not, And Do Not Tremble, Neither Be Ye Terrified Because Of Them. “Deuteronomy 20v3

Filed Under: Men, Prayer, Uncategorized Tagged With: I pray for your comfort, I seek Your guidance, Lord smooth this confession, prepare me Lord, you are in the process

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